Posts tagged ‘Guilt’

Band of Brothers

When I get the inspiration to blog, sometimes I resist it because the topic is too personal, or I feel like it points back to me instead of pointing back to God. I realized something this morning though, and I just briefly want to share it.


Psalm 133 talks about how good it is for brothers to dwell together in harmony. Also, the Bible talks about how Jesus sticks closer than a brother, and also how iron sharpens iron. It occurred to me that there is something really, inherently Godly about a brotherhood. Men need brotherhood. So, here is the back story.


My family is going through a tough time at the moment. Thinking about it woke me from my sleep before the alarm clock. Now, I’m not one to talk to other people very often about what ails me. I just try and deal with is like a man, which is to say I don’t deal with it. Usually that ends up allowing it to eat me alive. There have been instances in the past, with more frequency since we moved, that I feel comfortable enough to share with brothers in my church, men who share the same faith and passion for God that I do. And even while it’s embarrassing to have to admit failure and weakness, struggle and heartache, it is also cleansing to know that I can share with these men of God, and trust that they will be praying with and for me. So, I get up this morning and grab my phone. I type out a facebook message to these men, and hit send. Now, while I’m washing dishes this morning, I’m still worrying about our situation, but I begin thinking about a Band of Brothers. That was a series on HBO that I never watched, but God really showed me the strength of a brotherhood in just that statement. The bond that brothers share was designed to be stronger than the strongest steel. And when I think about the friends I have had in my life, we could go without talking for years, and then strike up a convo like it was just a day in the recent past. There is a love in a brotherhood that is enduring and refreshing. In a true brotherhood, we should be able to unveil ourselves without fear of guilt or condemnation from our peers. Yes, it’s hard for a man to be transparent, but there is a blessing in being able to just lay it bare before your brothers and let your needs be known. That’s what I did this morning. My wife probably won’t like it, (lol), but I needed my brothers, and I know that they are there for me.  They won’t leave me behind.


Men, we need each other. And women, you should strive for brotherhood in your sisterhood, and I hope you know what I mean when I say that. Lol. I just don’t see the need to suffer in silence, praying to God every night, when He has also given us people to hold us up when we feel weak. Cause sometimes, and we may not admit it to ourselves, we feel lonely even after we pray. Our faith is too beaten down, and our spirit is too weak. I don’t think it’s sin to admit that. It’s the truth. It’s not ungodly to confide in those of the faith. The Bible urges it, and we as a church are commanded to bear one another’s burdens. There is blessing and edification in that. And the strength that I feel, even having not heard from anyone that I messaged, is the strength that comes from God through them to me. God blesses us with strength not just for ourselves, but so that we can share with others. There is a verse in the bible that references how the in the new testament church, everyone had just what they needed, and nobody had more than they needed. This doesn’t just go for finances. It goes for the full gamut of the human experience.


So, thank you brothers in Christ. Thank you sisters in Christ. Those of you who willingly show Jesus in your relationships and uphold your fellow brother and sister in prayer and support. God bless you. I pray that we all may become that Christ-like in our dealings with one another.


Until next time, be blessed.

Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone

Moving Beyond Our Past

Many times we allow our pasts to keep us stationary, but God is calling us to move forward. We can’t allow past hurts to keep us in a place that God no longer wants us to inhabit.

We use our past guilt and hurt as a crutch, and build walls around ourselves.

Phil 3: 12- forgetting whats behind, I strain for what’s ahead.

Basically, i can’t relate to the present if I’m still reacting to the past. God has better in the future, but when we stay devoted to the past, we miss out.

We end up taking our past hurts out on people that we meet in the present and future. We have to choose to no longer be stuck! God can and will heal our hearts.

Focus your thoughts on God’s desire for a greater future. This can help you move beyond your past.

1. First i must give up my grudges.

Eph 4: 31-32- let go of everything just as God has let go of your own sins. Be kind and compassionate to one another.

When i hold resentment in our hearts, we give the other person power over us. They live life disregading you, but you can’t live your life.

Job 5: 2- to worry yourself with resentment is a foolish thing to do.

Job 18: 4- you are only hurting yourself with your anger.

2. I must give up my grief.

Children are good at mourning immediately and then refocusing. Adults refuse to mourn, and this creates problems. When our mourning becomes moaning, we get stuck.

-accept what can’t be changed.
-play it down and pray it up. (Is.6)- in the year that King Uziah died, Isaiah saw the Lord. During a time of grief, Isaiah had a life changing time with God.
-focus on what’s left, not what’s lost.

3. We must give up our guilt.

Some of us wanna keep ourselves in punishment for the rest of our lives. We can’t stay in the time out box forever. In the Bible, almost every great person messed up, and then God rebuilt them to do great things.

-the wrong way is condemnation.